2 posts tagged “family”

Here's what's going on. A  couple of days ago my aunt's boyfriend had a collision with someone because he was following too close and his breaks gave out. He hit this car hard. My aunt asked for my mother's help and so she went down to the scene. So after they talked the car got towed away. Later that day, my aunt called Mom and asked her if they could bring the car over to our place and leave it here for a bit. After my mom got off of the phone, she was talking (well yelling is more like it) about how she wasn't going to keep this car for a month because it is an eyesore. Also, it could get towed away. Since she thought that my aunt's boyfriend is a nice guy, she didn't want him to have to get another ticket and pay for the towing. Well, my aunt and her boyfriend came over when the car was towed over to our place. After talking she said that she was going to move the car the next day. They left and the next day came. No word from them about coming over to get the car. Of course, mom was livid (since they both can't stand each other, and this was adding more fuel to the 30 some odd year fire) and she was yelling about this all fricking morning (It woke me up, and naturally I don't appreciate that). So then my uncle came to our house and he said, "You know, this car might get towed because it's not your car. If the police comes around and run the license plate through and see that it's not your car then that person is going to get ticketed and towed." He didn't even know this was my aunt's boyfriend's car. Mom told him who the car was, and since he and the bf was friendly, he decided to give him a call and tell him what was going on. Well the shit hit the fan at that moment. My aunt's bf called her and told her what my uncle said. She called my mom and said "The car is going to get towed today since it's bothering you so damn bad." She then hung up in her face. Why in the hell did she have to call and say that? Why did she have to hang up in her face? I don't know. Mom, then called her back and left a pretty scathing voicemail and told her that she should never come back to our house. You think it would be squashed, but no. We haven't heard the end of it since. I woke up to my mom yelling about this.

 I don't see how this is so damn important to keep talking about. The situation is squashed! Oh, and then at 4:00 a.m. my uncle gave us a call saying that he's in jail for another DUI. He just can't leave the booze alone, eh? So that woke me up, and surprisingly my mom didn't flip her lid on that one. She still had the other situation on her mind.

In my opinion, they are both fools. Why is Mom letting this get to her I don't know. Why is my aunt letting this get to her, I don't know. But this needs to stop, or I'm going to lose my sanity.

I can't wait to graduate from college. As soon as I get a job at a local advertising firm, I'm moving out. This is ridiculous. My grandma is stressed out, I'm stressed out. These sorts of things have been going on for too many damn years!!!!!

Every since I have been unemployed there's been a lot of stuff going on--a lot of negativity.To make a very long and grueling story short, money is the root to all of the crappy shit that's going on. My folks are in a financial rut, and my uncles and aunts have been coming to my mom and grandma trying to get money out of them like they don't have financial problems themselves. Mom is putting her foot down saying that she has helped them more than enough and if they haven't fixed their problems by now then it's just too bad for them. And rightly so; they continue to abuse the money they earn. Of course they feel wronged, saying pretty much that she's being a selfish bitch. Grandma has been getting really upset and crying over this because she feels very disappointed with them. I hate to see my grandma cry; apart of her feels that it's her fault. I keep telling her that she has done the best she could growing them up and they just happened to stray. It is they who make the choices. Unfortunately, they let stupidity clout their judgement (yes I know I put an "e" there, but I can't help!). So that's been happening non stop.

Today, I went to orientation so that I could be hired to be a part time caregiver to my grandmother while my mom becomes  a part time caregiver to a family friend since his caregiver is incompetent. I go through orientation to find out that my mom will not be hired because she's the guy's payee. Though he's been a family friend for ages (about 20 years) and she's been doing the stuff for him that the caregiver is supposed to be doing (quite frankly she should be fired because she is putting his health at risk) they still won't let her do it supposedly to protect her. Really they are trying to protect their asses. Anyways it ruined my morning.

My dad decided to send me a long ass e-mail saying that it was a long time since we communicated with each other. The last time we seemed distant, and he started to procrastinate because he was afraid that he wasn't living up to my expectations of what a father is. WHAT EXPECTATIONS?!?! He has not been in my life for seventeen years. I don't know what a father is. How can I have expectations for him if I don't really know what the role of father entails. He should know already since he has five other kids. Oh, and then at the tail end of the e-mail he decides to tell me my grandpa has been in the hospital for more than a week and he was about to get out. WHY IN THE HELL DID HE NOT TELL ME THAT MY GRANDFATHER HAD CONGESTIVE HEART FAILURE WHEN HE WAS FIRST ADMITTED TO THE HOSPITAL. He could have died and I wouldn't have even known about it until 10 days later or maybe even later than that. We've talked since, but he hasn't replied to my last e-mail. Really it's up to him if he wants to be a father to me now. I've given him the opportunity to be in my life. It's up to him if he wants to take the chance.